The most common and most likely answer to this crossword clue is the 12 letter word DISCOURAGING
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What does DISCOURAGING mean?
DISCOURAGING verb- To extinguish the courage of; to dishearten; to depress the spirits of; to deprive of confidence; to deject.
- To persuade somebody not to do (something).
- Discouragement
- That causes discouragement