The most common and most likely answer to this crossword clue is the 13 letter word HIGH-PRESSURE
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The straight part
We know that "very stressing" is the straight/definition part of the clue. The straight part is often a synonym or definition, in this case very stressing = high-pressure.The cryptic/wordplay part
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What does HIGH-PRESSURE mean?
HIGH-PRESSURE adjective- Operating at relatively high pressure, such as several times atmospheric pressure.
- Tense; stressful.
- Involving much persuasion.