The most common and most likely answer to this crossword clue is the 9 letter word UXORICIDE
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More clues leading to the result UXORICIDE
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The straight part
We know that "19, say" is the straight/definition part of the clue. The straight part is often a synonym or definition, in this case 19, say = uxoricide.The cryptic/wordplay part
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What does UXORICIDE mean?
UXORICIDE noun- One who murders his or her wife.
- The murdering of one's own wife.