The most common and most likely answer to this crossword clue is the 4 plus 2 plus 4 plus 5 letter word TURN IN ONES GRAVE
I've seen this crossword clue in The Times
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The straight part
We know that "One mustn't be quick to take umbrage so" is the straight/definition part of the clue. The straight part is often a synonym or definition, in this case one mustn't be quick to take umbrage so = turn in ones grave.The cryptic/wordplay part
In cryptic crossword there's often an wordplay/cryptic part as well.This part involves a more complex hint, such as an anagram, homophone, hidden word, etc.
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