The most common and most likely answer to this crossword clue is the 10 letter word DOMINATRIX
I've seen this crossword clue in Financial Times
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The straight part
We know that "female holding power over men" is the straight/definition part of the clue. The straight part is often a synonym or definition, in this case female holding power over men = dominatrix.The cryptic/wordplay part
In cryptic crossword there's often an wordplay/cryptic part as well.This part involves a more complex hint, such as an anagram, homophone, hidden word, etc.
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What does DOMINATRIX mean?
DOMINATRIX noun- A dominating woman; a female dominator.
- A dominant female in sadomasochistic practices.